Why I Feel Sorry For Your Wives
I suppose you fellas who are “married but looking” have certain needs that your wives cannot fulfill. Most of you state the commonly-utilized explanation, “She knows, she’s supportive, she’s happy for me”, which is used to both reassure a potential baiser copain and to absolve the roaming spouse of any Moral Wrongdoings. After all, if the wife is cool with it than all is right in the coffee meeting, boner-through-the-pants, sex at a Motel 6 at 2 p.m. on a Tuesday afternoon world. Right.
I still can’t help feeling sorry for your wives.
What are they up to while these trysts are happening, anyway? Are they at work? At home with the kids? Engaging in mundane tasks in order to distract her from your absence? Does she wonder why you feel the need to acquire vagina outside the confines of marriage? And lastly, does she really mean it when she tells you it’s okay?
How long can these types of arrangements last before tears or claws? Or both? There is nothing wrong with a good fuck. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying sex. But why marry if you want to vis d’autres femmes? Why not just remain the ever-dating, free-to-fornicate bachelor? The Uncle Charlie, if you will? Really, why drag the little woman into it? I don’t get it.
Jealously is a not a fairy tale beast. Hurt is quite real. It takes a Certain-Kind-Of-Bastard to insist upon non-emotions. You are her husband, and you’re actively seeking-out other women to boink. No matter how understanding she appears to be, I can assure you that after awhile it will be a facade. After all, this just isn’t genitalia that’s being dealt with. There are histories, as well. Pasts. How does she really feel knowing the man she’s built a life with is telling women on a seedy dating site that he likes to “give oral”? There’s little dignity in that. The sanctity is all but a myth.
I’m not interested in “dating” a married man for the above reasons. Nor am I here to tell you how to live your lives. Whatever. Sex is wonderful, truly. But not everyone can so easily detach, nor should those who cannot easily detach be made to feel as though they are possessive, or overbearing. My lone opinion, while meaning very little, is this: if you’re married you are not “available”; you’re married. Thus, I’m not interested.
Don’t waste your time.
And I still feel sorry for your wives.
